Speaking to God
Prayer means learning how to speak with God
Reprinted with permission of the author from The Healer of Shattered Hearts: A Jewish View of God (Henry Holt).
The Rabbis call prayer the service of the heart. The sacrificial metaphor (for "service" in the phrase above recalls the service and sacrifices of the Temple) is suggestive. Jewish prayer is built upon the idea that an offering is being made to God. Something is being given--the fervor and fullness of our souls. "One's prayer is not heeded," says the Talmud, "unless God is approached with one's heart in one's hands" (Taanit 8a).
Prayer is the complete act of the human spirit, touching all the faculties--intellectual, emotional, spiritual, and even physical (in the prescribed motions of prayer). Such an offering is intended to be complete, the worshipers placing themselves on a metaphorical altar, putting themselves "on the line" in the hopes of acceptance.
Is God Listening?
One difference between prayer and human communication is the assurance of God's acceptance, if not God's assent. The tradition accepts that God will embrace any prayer that is offered willingly and fervently.
This does not make prayer easy. For if the assurance of acceptance is one difference between human and Divine communication, the other difference is the uncertainty of response. We cannot know if anyone is listening. Is prayer truly a dialogue, or only a monologue? Any response in our lives to prayer is erratic at best. At times it is tempting to believe that something has been granted in answer to our request. In more sober moments we realize, however, that prayers do not appear to be answered in this world, that far too much is faithfully asked for and not given. If what we ask for is not granted, can we still maintain there is "response"?
Only inside can we feel if there is any reply. No activity in the world can conclusively demonstrate dialogue. Perhaps in the subjective chambers of the individual soul one may conclude that there was communication, but it is highly personal and ever uncertain. Everyone who prays struggles with the deep fear that this time, the only answer will be absence, silence.
The uncertainty of an answer is not the only obstacle to prayer. Even in more positive moments, when one is feeling the assurance of God's acceptance, to present oneself fully to God is extraordinarily difficult. We know the enormousresistance that wells up inside us when we seek to open ourselves to another human being. Fear rises like a wall in the soul and fights to keep us locked in and safe. That same wall rises when we seek to pray. At times it looms larger, since to open oneself to God entails greater surrender, even less certainty.